"silent night, holy night
all is calm, all is bright
round yon virgin mother and child
holy infant, so tender and mild
sleep in heavenly peace"
years ago our house would be full of guests for christmas eve. my grandparents would be visiting from bellaire and chris would be in from pickerington for the night. to make room for the extra people, my brother would move into my room and sleep on the floor. one of my fondest christmas memories is laying in bed delaying sleep, staring at the ceiling singing silent night with my big brother, taking turns to create the coolest harmonies.
then there was the first time i ever heard my grandfather sing. although mom and dad tell me that he used to sing me czech lullabies to help me sleep, the first time i remember my grandpa singing was when i was in middle school. it was at our christmas eve worship service during silent night. the tender sweetness in his voice gave me chills. if i could have seen into his mind during that song, i think i would have seen childhood memories of singing carols with his many siblings in snowy st. joe, ohio.
tonight, as i sang the song for the millionth time, i couldn't help but marvel at the many changes over the years. sure, i was in the same church i had spent christmas eve most years of my life, but as much as time seemed to stand still, the faces around me told a different tale. the new faces sitting in the pews around me, the many old familiar faces that have gone missing over the years...the bible study mentors who left such a strong impact on my theological thought process, the youth group friends and their families who shared so many experiences, missionary george who taught me what it was like to be a servant leader, worship team leaders who challenged me to let the holy spirit out of the box, best friends who showed me unconditional love, family who now has families of their own, family who have died.
so many people were missing. so much has changed. and yet, the song is a constant. year after year we sing the verses and raise our lit candles in the air. for those few minutes, all truly is calm. babies who have screamed throughout the service are somehow hushed, noses that sniffled and sneezed are dry, hearts that have been hurting finally sense the hope that the newborn baby we sing of brings. for maybe the first time in the busy holiday season, we think not about what is missing in our lives, but about who just arrived.
i can't help but think of mercyme's lullaby told from joseph's point of view - "i believe the glory of heaven is lying in my arms tonight, but Lord i ask that He just for this moment simply be my child." this hope that we've all been waiting for, this knight in shining armor - He's here. but for now, he's just a child. for now, we must remain patient. for now, we cherish the still calm night, because it is only a matter of time before Jesus goes to work in us and through us to change the world.
Friday, December 24, 2010
Monday, November 8, 2010
boston
if friends are defined as people who love you the way you are and stick around long enough to see who you become, then i have surely been blessed with more friends than i deserve.
over the past week, i have enjoyed a lovely vacation in boston where i have had the privilege of spending time with three such friends:
adriane and i met in middle school. we were in separate grades and although we ran in different circles, we gradually bonded through band competitions and choir trips to new york city. when adriane graduated from high school, we were (un)affectionately known in our little group of friends as the giddy patrol. we were always smiling, always giggling, always having fun together.
sean and i met in college. he was friends with my roommate's crush. the four of us (me, my roommate, her crush, and sean) became fast friends our freshman year. most of my early college memories revolve around the four of us getting ourselves into trouble in one way or another. whether it was sean and greg sneaking onto our dorm roof to escape pledging craziness, saving sean and kelly from drowning in the river, or jumping into the pond at our seventh and final formal together, well, we were living life to the fullest.
charlie and i met a couple years ago at a mutual friend's wedding. i had heard his name consistently for at least five years, but had never met him. instantly, i knew this guy was someone i could appreciate. he could carry on worthwhile conversation, liked to people watch as much as i did, and his facial expressions and good humor kept me laughing most of the night. as much fun as we had that night, i wondered if i would see this new friend again. luckily, i have.
i could have been anywhere this past week - boston, buckhannon, or buckeye lake. what made this vacation so soul swelling was the friends who accompanied me on the little journey. i went to bed early and woke up late, but in between those times i spent time with friends who have allowed me the ebb and flow that comes with growing up.
during this vacation my body rested and my soul stretched, but tomorrow i head back to the village. in six hours i will board a plane and return to a lifestyle that stresses my psyche and tires my feet. i will rush into the office to make the necessary changes to the weekly newsletter before going to print at 9am. then i will put the finishing touches on my presentation for class before going to a staff meeting that will take most of the rest of the morning. i will grab lunch, teach class, and have just enough time at the end of the day to skim through the pile of mail that is surely waiting at my desk.
my prayer is this... that God would quiet my mind long enough to enjoy the last few hours i have of freedom and that i might remember that my life was made for more than work. my life was made for friendship and adventure and love and laughter. may God remind me of those times spent as a giddy little girl with adriane and a trouble-making teenager with sean because healthy doses of those will help me to one day become the unforgettable woman i was created to be.
over the past week, i have enjoyed a lovely vacation in boston where i have had the privilege of spending time with three such friends:
adriane and i met in middle school. we were in separate grades and although we ran in different circles, we gradually bonded through band competitions and choir trips to new york city. when adriane graduated from high school, we were (un)affectionately known in our little group of friends as the giddy patrol. we were always smiling, always giggling, always having fun together.
sean and i met in college. he was friends with my roommate's crush. the four of us (me, my roommate, her crush, and sean) became fast friends our freshman year. most of my early college memories revolve around the four of us getting ourselves into trouble in one way or another. whether it was sean and greg sneaking onto our dorm roof to escape pledging craziness, saving sean and kelly from drowning in the river, or jumping into the pond at our seventh and final formal together, well, we were living life to the fullest.
charlie and i met a couple years ago at a mutual friend's wedding. i had heard his name consistently for at least five years, but had never met him. instantly, i knew this guy was someone i could appreciate. he could carry on worthwhile conversation, liked to people watch as much as i did, and his facial expressions and good humor kept me laughing most of the night. as much fun as we had that night, i wondered if i would see this new friend again. luckily, i have.i could have been anywhere this past week - boston, buckhannon, or buckeye lake. what made this vacation so soul swelling was the friends who accompanied me on the little journey. i went to bed early and woke up late, but in between those times i spent time with friends who have allowed me the ebb and flow that comes with growing up.
during this vacation my body rested and my soul stretched, but tomorrow i head back to the village. in six hours i will board a plane and return to a lifestyle that stresses my psyche and tires my feet. i will rush into the office to make the necessary changes to the weekly newsletter before going to print at 9am. then i will put the finishing touches on my presentation for class before going to a staff meeting that will take most of the rest of the morning. i will grab lunch, teach class, and have just enough time at the end of the day to skim through the pile of mail that is surely waiting at my desk.
my prayer is this... that God would quiet my mind long enough to enjoy the last few hours i have of freedom and that i might remember that my life was made for more than work. my life was made for friendship and adventure and love and laughter. may God remind me of those times spent as a giddy little girl with adriane and a trouble-making teenager with sean because healthy doses of those will help me to one day become the unforgettable woman i was created to be.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
moonlight
pete and i were taking our daily midnight stroll when i looked up and saw the most beautiful full moon. the clouds though, they were moving so quickly that the moonlight was something like a strobe light. with halloween approaching on the calendar my mind instantly went to classic cinematic moments in film when you know that something big is about to happen because the shot focuses on the moon just as clouds cover it in darkness. before i completely creeped myself out by thinking about horror films and halloween ghosts my mind switched gears and landed on a completely different train of thought.
i don't know what is different this year, but i feel like i am working 24/7. i work all day, then i come home and i work on my computer all night into the wee hours of dark. tonight, for example, i finished at 1:20am. with this crazy pace of life, i'm having a hard time keeping focus on the bigger things of life.
chris used to say, "don't get so lost in the urgent that you lose sight of the important." i'm lost in the urgent and i have no map to get out. i can't get past the "have-to"s and the "must-be"s to be able to think about the "want-to"s or the "could-be"s. even as i write, i'm thinking about work - the "want-to"s and "could-be"s for Pfeiffer.
the more important things of life, though, are health, family, friends and faith. and i'm not doing so well in any of those areas. i called my brother and sister-in-law last night and realized that i nearly forgot my niece's birthday next week. i would not have remembered had nicole not mentioned it. i'm trying to get together with friends and the first day i have free is october 30th, and i don't even have the full day. i have work that evening. i have been trying to get back to the gym for weeks, but i can't find time in the day to make it happen. i keep saying, "i'll go tomorrow" but tomorrow never comes.
and then there's my faith. church isn't worship for me right now. i go and i try to center my mind, but i can't help but run through my to-do list over and over again wondering if it will end on time and whether i can get out of the door without being stopped for conversation so i can get back to my office and cross something else off of my list.
work is clouding the Light from shining in my world.
but something big is about to happen.
i don't know what it is yet, but the horror film suspense is killing me.
Monday, August 30, 2010
locked out
i’ve been staying at a friend’s house for the weekend, but yesterday i drove back to misenheimer for a few hours to take another friend out for her birthday and pick up the bill from a student activity at the local movie theater. at the end of the night i drove back to charlotte to stay with my friend. when i showed up at her door around midnight i called and i texted, but heard no response. i noticed that her bedroom light was still on, so i rang the doorbell. the light turned off. i called again. no response.
we lock our doors at night to keep out strangers and thieves. we lock our hearts for the very same reason.
one bad experience too many and we build up walls to protect us from being hurt again. you say you're not into public displays of affection because it’s easier than admitting that you’re completely insecure about your body. you tell people you don’t want to have kids because it’s easier than confessing that your heart broke the moment the doctor told you that you couldn’t. you believe his it-will-be-different-this-time lies because it's easier to be with someone who's wrong for you than to wait for that someone who is right.
i've got pentagon worthy security systems around my heart. i use sarcasm as a deterrent and when all else fails, there's always self-sabotage to finish the job.
i once dated a guy who (after we broke up, of course) told me that i wasn't affectionate enough. i didn't hold his hand in public or sit on his lap at parties. i didn't give him enough love. i told him that it was probably because i didn't love him. the truth is, though, that after months of dating i was still so uncertain of his affection for me that i was unwilling to risk my own.
so i'm standing in front of my friend's house, about to cry because i'm so exhausted from a long couple days. i text every friend i have in charlotte. well, every friend that just might still be awake at 1am. no one answers. i decide to drive back to misenheimer, but everyone there is asleep, including the student who is petsitting at my house for the weekend. i have nowhere to sleep in charlotte, and i can't go back to my house either. i'm homeless. i have nowhere to go. in a spirit of desparation i post a status on facebook and one of my lovely colleagues immediately offers for me to crash at her place.
my friend called me at 3:30am when she woke up and realized that i had never come back. she was considerably worried and overly apologetic. i drove back to charlotte and walked up to her house, and she immediately promised to have a spare key made for me so this would never happen again.
relationships are all about taking risks. sometimes we see the light on inside and it gives us hope that the door will be opened for us, that those self-built walls will come crumbling down. we call and text and bang on the door just to see the light go off and be left alone out on the street. sometimes, though, you're invited in and even given your very own key.
we lock our doors at night to keep out strangers and thieves. we lock our hearts for the very same reason.
one bad experience too many and we build up walls to protect us from being hurt again. you say you're not into public displays of affection because it’s easier than admitting that you’re completely insecure about your body. you tell people you don’t want to have kids because it’s easier than confessing that your heart broke the moment the doctor told you that you couldn’t. you believe his it-will-be-different-this-time lies because it's easier to be with someone who's wrong for you than to wait for that someone who is right.
i've got pentagon worthy security systems around my heart. i use sarcasm as a deterrent and when all else fails, there's always self-sabotage to finish the job.
i once dated a guy who (after we broke up, of course) told me that i wasn't affectionate enough. i didn't hold his hand in public or sit on his lap at parties. i didn't give him enough love. i told him that it was probably because i didn't love him. the truth is, though, that after months of dating i was still so uncertain of his affection for me that i was unwilling to risk my own.
so i'm standing in front of my friend's house, about to cry because i'm so exhausted from a long couple days. i text every friend i have in charlotte. well, every friend that just might still be awake at 1am. no one answers. i decide to drive back to misenheimer, but everyone there is asleep, including the student who is petsitting at my house for the weekend. i have nowhere to sleep in charlotte, and i can't go back to my house either. i'm homeless. i have nowhere to go. in a spirit of desparation i post a status on facebook and one of my lovely colleagues immediately offers for me to crash at her place.
my friend called me at 3:30am when she woke up and realized that i had never come back. she was considerably worried and overly apologetic. i drove back to charlotte and walked up to her house, and she immediately promised to have a spare key made for me so this would never happen again.
relationships are all about taking risks. sometimes we see the light on inside and it gives us hope that the door will be opened for us, that those self-built walls will come crumbling down. we call and text and bang on the door just to see the light go off and be left alone out on the street. sometimes, though, you're invited in and even given your very own key.
Monday, August 23, 2010
humpty dumpty
i was in such a hurry that i was at the door before i realized that i hadn't yet put shoes on. i ran back up the stairs to my closet and pulled out my favorite 4-inch nine west wedges. they matched my outfit perfectly and i rarely get to wear them these days. i buckled each shoe in record time before darting for the stairs.
my left foot didn't leave the top stair. the rest of me, however, kept tumbling down the stairs. eventually, all of me ended up at the bottom of the staircase. if i weren't in such a rush, i would have shed a tear over the broken shoe that still hung from my left foot, dangling so pathetically, but there simply wasn't enough time for crying. so i ran back up the stairs and put on a pair of tan leather peep-toe pumps and hurried off for a full night.
it wasn't until a couple hours later while i was sitting on the front row for an hour-long lecture that i began to notice the straining in my calf muscle and the ache in my shoulder. i took a handful of aleve tonight in preparation for a long night and even worse morning of pain.
sometimes life has us going so fast that it isn't until we stop and sit still for a little while that we begin to feel the hurt and the disappointment caused along the way.
my left foot didn't leave the top stair. the rest of me, however, kept tumbling down the stairs. eventually, all of me ended up at the bottom of the staircase. if i weren't in such a rush, i would have shed a tear over the broken shoe that still hung from my left foot, dangling so pathetically, but there simply wasn't enough time for crying. so i ran back up the stairs and put on a pair of tan leather peep-toe pumps and hurried off for a full night.
it wasn't until a couple hours later while i was sitting on the front row for an hour-long lecture that i began to notice the straining in my calf muscle and the ache in my shoulder. i took a handful of aleve tonight in preparation for a long night and even worse morning of pain.
sometimes life has us going so fast that it isn't until we stop and sit still for a little while that we begin to feel the hurt and the disappointment caused along the way.
Friday, August 20, 2010
rope bone roots and ballerina dreams
as i threw away the last strings of the rope bone pete had finally shredded to bits, i couldn't help but think about bringing him home that first night. i was in class until 5pm then went to the smith household to pick him up. they sent us home with a bag of rawhides, a huge bag of food, a bright red collar (which as soon as we got in the car to leave i immediately switched out for the cute blue one he's wearing in the photo), and this thick rope bone that has lasted far longer than any other rope bone i've brought home. i don't know where they bought it, but it's lasted nearly nine months and every other one i've bought to replace it has never lasted more than a week.
i was a chronic thumb-sucker as a child, but i couldn't suck my thumb without holding my blankie right at my nostrils so i could smell the comforting scent of home. eventually, my parents hid my blankie in hopes that i would quit sucking my thumb. society had decided that i was too old to be a thumb-sucker and my parents agreed. it was time to move on. on some level, i bet the guilt i felt as i threw away the final strings of pete's bone into the trash can is similar to the pain my parents felt as they snuck in my room and stole my blankee as i was sleeping. there's guilt, but there's also power and a strong sense of caring in knowing that what you're doing is best for the one you love, even if they won't think so at the time.
funny how our roots stick with us long after we've left. when i was a little girl i dreamt of being a ballerina waitress. i wanted to invent this new profession where one could twirl in tiny circles as she danced her way to deliver food to her customers. like pete's red collar, that dream got switched out for one more fitting as i got older.
other dreams though, they haven't disappeared so quickly. i had a plan for my life. at twenty-seven i was supposed to be married with two children, maybe another one on the way. i was supposed to have already had an exciting career and a busy big city life. instead, i live in a village with a dog who destroys toys and a cat who still hasn't forgiven me for bringing home the dog. i'm not married. and i don't have any kids, either. and although my job keeps me on my toes a lot, i can't honestly call it "exciting".
like pete and his beloved rope bone from the smiths, i've held on to old ideas. ideas of what my life 'should have been'. but like the single lifeless string hanging from pete's lips, those dreams are useless. i barely notice them in myself, but the danger of their ability to strangle my insides still exists. i must let go of them in order to embrace new dreams.
i'll keep buying different brands of rope bones until i find one as durable as his first. and i'll keep dreaming dreams until i find one worth truly chasing. dreams are only dreams. but when you find one worth chasing it becomes more than a dream. it becomes your life.
i'm tired of merely dreaming. i'm ready to live.
i was a chronic thumb-sucker as a child, but i couldn't suck my thumb without holding my blankie right at my nostrils so i could smell the comforting scent of home. eventually, my parents hid my blankie in hopes that i would quit sucking my thumb. society had decided that i was too old to be a thumb-sucker and my parents agreed. it was time to move on. on some level, i bet the guilt i felt as i threw away the final strings of pete's bone into the trash can is similar to the pain my parents felt as they snuck in my room and stole my blankee as i was sleeping. there's guilt, but there's also power and a strong sense of caring in knowing that what you're doing is best for the one you love, even if they won't think so at the time.
funny how our roots stick with us long after we've left. when i was a little girl i dreamt of being a ballerina waitress. i wanted to invent this new profession where one could twirl in tiny circles as she danced her way to deliver food to her customers. like pete's red collar, that dream got switched out for one more fitting as i got older.
other dreams though, they haven't disappeared so quickly. i had a plan for my life. at twenty-seven i was supposed to be married with two children, maybe another one on the way. i was supposed to have already had an exciting career and a busy big city life. instead, i live in a village with a dog who destroys toys and a cat who still hasn't forgiven me for bringing home the dog. i'm not married. and i don't have any kids, either. and although my job keeps me on my toes a lot, i can't honestly call it "exciting".
like pete and his beloved rope bone from the smiths, i've held on to old ideas. ideas of what my life 'should have been'. but like the single lifeless string hanging from pete's lips, those dreams are useless. i barely notice them in myself, but the danger of their ability to strangle my insides still exists. i must let go of them in order to embrace new dreams.
i'll keep buying different brands of rope bones until i find one as durable as his first. and i'll keep dreaming dreams until i find one worth truly chasing. dreams are only dreams. but when you find one worth chasing it becomes more than a dream. it becomes your life.
i'm tired of merely dreaming. i'm ready to live.
Friday, August 13, 2010
i want to vomit
i hear the word "racism" and i think of the sixties. but, in light of dr. laura's recent radio ridiculousness, i have to ask - is racism still an issue in america today? sadly, yes it is. and homophobia and sexism and...and...the list could go on forever.
i hear the six-letter N word and the three-letter F word and i am utterly flabbergasted. how does anyone on this earth think that it is okay to use such vulgar langauge? i see "that's so gay" and "that's so retarded" littering facebook pages and i want to pull my hair out.
no matter how many degrading prejudices surface in conversation, i am always surprised. every time. it never becomes normal and it never becomes expected. i still can't believe that people think it's okay to speak that way.
i've heard students express concern about sharing a room with a homosexual person and i've heard parents demand that their child get placed with a roommate of the same race. SERIOUSLY?!
my heart is hurt and my stomach is sick. i want to vomit.
how do we fight these prejudices? we have to speak up. we have to. when we hear someone use offensive language, we need to address it. immediately. and consistently. and we have to educate each other about our differences. i believe that prejudices are created out of our fear of the unknown and the only way to disband them is to learn more about each other.
one day we will finally live up to those words of Jesus to "love one another" (john 13:34). such a simple commandment, and yet we just can't get it right. until we can truly love each other without prejudice, can we really call ourselves "christian"?
i hear the six-letter N word and the three-letter F word and i am utterly flabbergasted. how does anyone on this earth think that it is okay to use such vulgar langauge? i see "that's so gay" and "that's so retarded" littering facebook pages and i want to pull my hair out.
no matter how many degrading prejudices surface in conversation, i am always surprised. every time. it never becomes normal and it never becomes expected. i still can't believe that people think it's okay to speak that way.
i've heard students express concern about sharing a room with a homosexual person and i've heard parents demand that their child get placed with a roommate of the same race. SERIOUSLY?!
my heart is hurt and my stomach is sick. i want to vomit.
how do we fight these prejudices? we have to speak up. we have to. when we hear someone use offensive language, we need to address it. immediately. and consistently. and we have to educate each other about our differences. i believe that prejudices are created out of our fear of the unknown and the only way to disband them is to learn more about each other.
one day we will finally live up to those words of Jesus to "love one another" (john 13:34). such a simple commandment, and yet we just can't get it right. until we can truly love each other without prejudice, can we really call ourselves "christian"?
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
27 gifts for 27 years
last year i offered 26 memories for 26 years. to honor my birthday this year, in no particular order, i will share the 27 best gifts of my 27 years:
1) mr. darcy. kara appreciate my love of the book and developed a tradition of always giving me a gift related to pride and prejudice. mr. darcy was my birthday gift several years ago. he is the perfect cat. he plays fetch, he drinks from the faucet, he defends my honor. i love him :)
2) my bed. my grandmother spent most of her life as a clothing buyer for stone and thomas department stores. shopping wasn't just a hobby, it was her life. she loves to shop, and i love to shop with her.
3) broadway light series. jenny and sally are two of most generous people i have ever known - they are constantly caring for the people around them through the gifts of their love, their time, their service, and of course, theater tickets.
4) scripture note. kelly set a high standard for my roommates that came after her. she was bold, strong, funny, caring, and extremely supportive of every one of my dreams. one day, just when i really needed it, i came back to our dorm room to find a note on my desk with an encouraging scripture verse. it's been 9 years and that index card still encourages me from the bulletin board above my work desk.
5) banana pudding. gloria and chris came to visit me shortly after my gallbladder surgery with a wonderful dinner, including homemade banana pudding. i've never tasted anything so delicious. for days, all i could eat was bootsie's pimento cheese and gloria's banana pudding.
6) mirror. chris had put a very unique mirror in the family yard sale. i saw it and brought it back inside. it is the centerpiece of my kitchen and the inspiration for the entire decoration.
7) sex and the city. andrew gave me the complete series one christmas. when i get lonely in the village sometimes, carrie and the girls keep me company :)
8) my house. sure, the roof rotted through and the bathroom plumbing was leaking through my walls, but i love this house and it is so nice that pfeiffer lets me live here. it truly is my home.
9) my box. heather decoupaged a wooden box representing countless memories. i catch a glimpse of the box and i can't help but grin thinking of all of the fun times we had.
10) chopper. chandra introduced me to the wonderful world of pampered chef with a vegetable chopper several years ago when she began working for the company. i've been hooked ever since.
11) nativity. mom, dad, grandma, and grandpa all came together to gift me the entire willow tree nativity set. at dilworth, i left it up year-round. it's just too beautiful to keep in a box 11 months of the year.
12) zedica. trevor and nicole didn't give birth to zedica as a gift to me, but every day with her feels like opening gifts on christmas morning. she is such a joy and adds so much to my life.
13) goodbye gift. lynn gathered families at dilworth and gave with such generosity that i could have never said "thank you" enough. it was so far above and beyond and it really helped me to walk away without the overwhelming stress of being jobless and without income.
14) music. i don't know what i would do in this world if i could not appreciate the delicate melodies and intricate harmonies of my favorite musicians.
15) cat ornament. while i worry that the fact that someone randomly bought me a cat ornament may imply that i am turning into a cat lady, the idea that someone thought of me and wanted to gift me something anonymously is beautiful. thank you, whoever you are!
16) my first car. rhonda the honda. she was a 1999 civic and she was well loved. i used to sing "help me rhonda" to her on our long road trips together. she was smashed to bits on park road one dark day in charlotte. i made it out alive from the accident, but she didn't. i miss her...
17) my job. kathleen and gloria reached out to me at a time when my faith in the church was lost. they had faith in me, even when i had none in anything. chris took a chance on me, a stranger with more employment baggage than a 23 year old girl could carry. he had faith in me, even when i had none in anything. what was supposed to be a 10 month detour from my path toward being the best youth pastor to ever walk the earth turned into a complete change of direction. and i couldn't be happier.
18) bean bag chair. i don't remember which birthday it was, but brad and chandra got together and gave me the most random assortment of gifts. among them was a bright blue bean bag chair. i loved that chair. and i loved that it was from two of my favorite people.
19) trophy. jacob showed up at my doorstep one morning before high school and presented me with a bowling trophy. he had covered the name plate with masking tape and hand wrote "world's best girlfriend" with black ink. i am sure that he found it at goodwill for ten cents, but the surprise was cute and the goofy sentiment appreciated. it still makes me laugh awkwardly when i think of it.
20) mission trip survival kit. bootsie and amy were the best coworkers in the world. we made an incredible team! when i left for my first mission trip with the dilworth youth, they handed me a survival kit. it was hilarious! it had the essentials - bug spray, asprin, etc. it also had some fun things to keep me sane like bubble and a princess tiara. good times, haha
21) smores kit. the lewisburg youth gave me a smores maker kit when i finished my internship with them so many summers ago. we had made lots of smores together over the summer and every time i pull it out i think of those girls and the amazing summer spent with that community.
22) art. i had the most amazing art teachers. mrs. cheney and mrs. beall inspired me to be creative when other teachers were merely teaching memorization. i struggle sometimes to jump outside of the box, but i still hear their encouragement.
23) pete. pete was rescued by the smith family in charlotte. they put out a massive e-mail search to find a home for him, and i simply answered the call. the family took him to the vet and cared for his initial shots and surgery then gave him to me without accepting payment. he has been such an incredible addition to my little family and i couldn't thank pam enough. (and bootsie for forwarding me the e-mail!)
24) mix cds. rich, heather, and adriane are notorious for making the BEST mix cds. in the days of ipods, few people take the time to thoughtfully put together a good mix cd and these three do an awesome job.
25) birthday breakfast. katy made me birthday breakfast last year and it was delicious! it was a great surprise and the whole office came out to enjoy the yummy delicacy. this is just one of the many culinary creations that katy shares with me on a regular basis.
26) hockey. many moons ago jon briggs introduced me to the wonderful world of ice hockey. i think we watched every hockey movie ever made during that summer in ohio. then along came katie, whose love of buffalo sabres hockey is off the charts. it is so intense that it's contagious ...and i caught the disease!
27) my barbie house. grandpa made all kinds of things for me over the years - bedroom furniture as a little girl, mascot signs in high school, shelving and bed risers for college... but the best was my barbie house. two story home painted pink with white shutters. sliding glass doors to the patio. rolling garage door. real toilet paper, cut and rolled up in the bathroom. spiral staircase. real tile flooring. handmade curtains, thanks to grandma. it was every girl's dream, and it was made especially for me. i can't wait to give that to a special little girl.
1) mr. darcy. kara appreciate my love of the book and developed a tradition of always giving me a gift related to pride and prejudice. mr. darcy was my birthday gift several years ago. he is the perfect cat. he plays fetch, he drinks from the faucet, he defends my honor. i love him :)
2) my bed. my grandmother spent most of her life as a clothing buyer for stone and thomas department stores. shopping wasn't just a hobby, it was her life. she loves to shop, and i love to shop with her.
3) broadway light series. jenny and sally are two of most generous people i have ever known - they are constantly caring for the people around them through the gifts of their love, their time, their service, and of course, theater tickets.
4) scripture note. kelly set a high standard for my roommates that came after her. she was bold, strong, funny, caring, and extremely supportive of every one of my dreams. one day, just when i really needed it, i came back to our dorm room to find a note on my desk with an encouraging scripture verse. it's been 9 years and that index card still encourages me from the bulletin board above my work desk.
5) banana pudding. gloria and chris came to visit me shortly after my gallbladder surgery with a wonderful dinner, including homemade banana pudding. i've never tasted anything so delicious. for days, all i could eat was bootsie's pimento cheese and gloria's banana pudding.
6) mirror. chris had put a very unique mirror in the family yard sale. i saw it and brought it back inside. it is the centerpiece of my kitchen and the inspiration for the entire decoration.
7) sex and the city. andrew gave me the complete series one christmas. when i get lonely in the village sometimes, carrie and the girls keep me company :)
8) my house. sure, the roof rotted through and the bathroom plumbing was leaking through my walls, but i love this house and it is so nice that pfeiffer lets me live here. it truly is my home.
9) my box. heather decoupaged a wooden box representing countless memories. i catch a glimpse of the box and i can't help but grin thinking of all of the fun times we had.
10) chopper. chandra introduced me to the wonderful world of pampered chef with a vegetable chopper several years ago when she began working for the company. i've been hooked ever since.
11) nativity. mom, dad, grandma, and grandpa all came together to gift me the entire willow tree nativity set. at dilworth, i left it up year-round. it's just too beautiful to keep in a box 11 months of the year.
12) zedica. trevor and nicole didn't give birth to zedica as a gift to me, but every day with her feels like opening gifts on christmas morning. she is such a joy and adds so much to my life.
13) goodbye gift. lynn gathered families at dilworth and gave with such generosity that i could have never said "thank you" enough. it was so far above and beyond and it really helped me to walk away without the overwhelming stress of being jobless and without income.
14) music. i don't know what i would do in this world if i could not appreciate the delicate melodies and intricate harmonies of my favorite musicians.
15) cat ornament. while i worry that the fact that someone randomly bought me a cat ornament may imply that i am turning into a cat lady, the idea that someone thought of me and wanted to gift me something anonymously is beautiful. thank you, whoever you are!
16) my first car. rhonda the honda. she was a 1999 civic and she was well loved. i used to sing "help me rhonda" to her on our long road trips together. she was smashed to bits on park road one dark day in charlotte. i made it out alive from the accident, but she didn't. i miss her...
17) my job. kathleen and gloria reached out to me at a time when my faith in the church was lost. they had faith in me, even when i had none in anything. chris took a chance on me, a stranger with more employment baggage than a 23 year old girl could carry. he had faith in me, even when i had none in anything. what was supposed to be a 10 month detour from my path toward being the best youth pastor to ever walk the earth turned into a complete change of direction. and i couldn't be happier.
18) bean bag chair. i don't remember which birthday it was, but brad and chandra got together and gave me the most random assortment of gifts. among them was a bright blue bean bag chair. i loved that chair. and i loved that it was from two of my favorite people.
19) trophy. jacob showed up at my doorstep one morning before high school and presented me with a bowling trophy. he had covered the name plate with masking tape and hand wrote "world's best girlfriend" with black ink. i am sure that he found it at goodwill for ten cents, but the surprise was cute and the goofy sentiment appreciated. it still makes me laugh awkwardly when i think of it.
20) mission trip survival kit. bootsie and amy were the best coworkers in the world. we made an incredible team! when i left for my first mission trip with the dilworth youth, they handed me a survival kit. it was hilarious! it had the essentials - bug spray, asprin, etc. it also had some fun things to keep me sane like bubble and a princess tiara. good times, haha
21) smores kit. the lewisburg youth gave me a smores maker kit when i finished my internship with them so many summers ago. we had made lots of smores together over the summer and every time i pull it out i think of those girls and the amazing summer spent with that community.
22) art. i had the most amazing art teachers. mrs. cheney and mrs. beall inspired me to be creative when other teachers were merely teaching memorization. i struggle sometimes to jump outside of the box, but i still hear their encouragement.
23) pete. pete was rescued by the smith family in charlotte. they put out a massive e-mail search to find a home for him, and i simply answered the call. the family took him to the vet and cared for his initial shots and surgery then gave him to me without accepting payment. he has been such an incredible addition to my little family and i couldn't thank pam enough. (and bootsie for forwarding me the e-mail!)
24) mix cds. rich, heather, and adriane are notorious for making the BEST mix cds. in the days of ipods, few people take the time to thoughtfully put together a good mix cd and these three do an awesome job.
25) birthday breakfast. katy made me birthday breakfast last year and it was delicious! it was a great surprise and the whole office came out to enjoy the yummy delicacy. this is just one of the many culinary creations that katy shares with me on a regular basis.
26) hockey. many moons ago jon briggs introduced me to the wonderful world of ice hockey. i think we watched every hockey movie ever made during that summer in ohio. then along came katie, whose love of buffalo sabres hockey is off the charts. it is so intense that it's contagious ...and i caught the disease!
27) my barbie house. grandpa made all kinds of things for me over the years - bedroom furniture as a little girl, mascot signs in high school, shelving and bed risers for college... but the best was my barbie house. two story home painted pink with white shutters. sliding glass doors to the patio. rolling garage door. real toilet paper, cut and rolled up in the bathroom. spiral staircase. real tile flooring. handmade curtains, thanks to grandma. it was every girl's dream, and it was made especially for me. i can't wait to give that to a special little girl.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
untamed and uncut
if you've ever had cable, then you have likely caught a glimpse of animals gone wild 'untamed and uncut', battling in the wilderness. i see such rage and i can't help but stop and stare.
well, animal planet's got nothing on what i witnessed tonight.
leo is my outdoor cat. i don't know that he's been introduced to the blogosphere yet. here he is:
leo adopted me several months ago and i instantly fell in love. we had a few rough days at first. some blood was shed. (mine, not his.) just until i learned that even though he rolls over and teases like he wants you to scratch his belly - he does NOT in fact enjoy that and he WILL attack your hand.
leo is a free spirit. sometimes he sticks around the yard for days, sometimes he only comes by every couple days to eat. this time though...well, he's been absent for a month. so when kevin said that there was a sweet orange cat hanging around the north side of campus, i invited him to bring it over to my place in hopes of keeping it fed and, maybe more importantly, keeping it out of the residence halls when students return next week.
this is where the real story begins...
part one:
tonight, as i was finishing up my last batch of lemon blueberry biscuits, kevin called. he had the cat and wondered if it would be a good time to bring it over to the house. "come on over..."
when i walked outside to greet kevin and my new feline friend, i saw a cat that looked so much like my childhood cat - buddy. it was an orange tabby and so very lovable. she let me hold her (we're pretty sure it's a girl though i didn't get a good look, since it was so dark outside..) and came over to join leo for dinner.
leo wasn't having it. he chased the orange cat away, growling and hissing the whole way. the two cats disappeared into the dark night. part of me was proud, knowing that this meant that leo claimed this place as his home. the other part of me was fearful that i'd find a wounded cat on my doorstep in the morning.
part two:
it isn't long before both cats return. leo is eating from his food bowl at the end of the sidewalk again. the orange cat is underneath my car. clearly, the issue before was the food. so i bring out another dish of food and put it near the car before walking over to pet leo and check him over for any damage. he's happy as can be without a cut or a scratch.
the orange cat appears but bypasses the food and waltzes straight up to the house door. i leave leo to check out this new cat and make sure that she's okay. i feel something wet by her ear, but it turns out to be nothing. she is sweet as can be, even curling up in my lap purring.
suddenly there's a third cat in my yard. it's grey. i've seen it maybe once before, but this is the first time he's really approached the house. he's big. and strong. i can see that from yards away on my porch. my new friend, the orange cat, isn't really interested in this new development at first, but leo perks up almost immediately. after a long staring competition leo and the orange cat chase the grey cat into the woods. they've apparently joined forces.
leo goes back to eating. orange cat returns to me. i get up to go in the house, and she follows me without hesitation.
part four:
i open the door and let this new cat come inside. mr darcy is on his usual perch right inside staring down at the new cat, but not making a move or a sound. things seem to be going well until pete comes barreling through the kitchen to meet his new friend.
the cat freaks out. it was like something out of a cartoon. arched back. fur spiked. eyes huge. before i can get pete restrained the cat literally scales the corner of the room with his claws, bouncing from wall to wall and nearly hitting the ceiling before dropping to the ground again.
by this point pete is almost peeing himself. what happened next though, is the stunning part. mr. darcy quickly came to pete's rescue. he got between pete and i and this new cat, making noises that i could never imagine coming from any living being. the pitch and volume of his growl were unearthly. clearly, i don't speak 'cat', but mr. darcy must have threatened that cat something fierce because as soon as i got that door open even a crack she was out like lightning.
well, animal planet's got nothing on what i witnessed tonight.
leo is my outdoor cat. i don't know that he's been introduced to the blogosphere yet. here he is:
leo adopted me several months ago and i instantly fell in love. we had a few rough days at first. some blood was shed. (mine, not his.) just until i learned that even though he rolls over and teases like he wants you to scratch his belly - he does NOT in fact enjoy that and he WILL attack your hand.
leo is a free spirit. sometimes he sticks around the yard for days, sometimes he only comes by every couple days to eat. this time though...well, he's been absent for a month. so when kevin said that there was a sweet orange cat hanging around the north side of campus, i invited him to bring it over to my place in hopes of keeping it fed and, maybe more importantly, keeping it out of the residence halls when students return next week.
this is where the real story begins...
part one:
tonight, as i was finishing up my last batch of lemon blueberry biscuits, kevin called. he had the cat and wondered if it would be a good time to bring it over to the house. "come on over..."
when i walked outside to greet kevin and my new feline friend, i saw a cat that looked so much like my childhood cat - buddy. it was an orange tabby and so very lovable. she let me hold her (we're pretty sure it's a girl though i didn't get a good look, since it was so dark outside..) and came over to join leo for dinner.
leo wasn't having it. he chased the orange cat away, growling and hissing the whole way. the two cats disappeared into the dark night. part of me was proud, knowing that this meant that leo claimed this place as his home. the other part of me was fearful that i'd find a wounded cat on my doorstep in the morning.
part two:
it isn't long before both cats return. leo is eating from his food bowl at the end of the sidewalk again. the orange cat is underneath my car. clearly, the issue before was the food. so i bring out another dish of food and put it near the car before walking over to pet leo and check him over for any damage. he's happy as can be without a cut or a scratch.
the orange cat appears but bypasses the food and waltzes straight up to the house door. i leave leo to check out this new cat and make sure that she's okay. i feel something wet by her ear, but it turns out to be nothing. she is sweet as can be, even curling up in my lap purring.
suddenly there's a third cat in my yard. it's grey. i've seen it maybe once before, but this is the first time he's really approached the house. he's big. and strong. i can see that from yards away on my porch. my new friend, the orange cat, isn't really interested in this new development at first, but leo perks up almost immediately. after a long staring competition leo and the orange cat chase the grey cat into the woods. they've apparently joined forces.
leo goes back to eating. orange cat returns to me. i get up to go in the house, and she follows me without hesitation.
part four:
i open the door and let this new cat come inside. mr darcy is on his usual perch right inside staring down at the new cat, but not making a move or a sound. things seem to be going well until pete comes barreling through the kitchen to meet his new friend.
the cat freaks out. it was like something out of a cartoon. arched back. fur spiked. eyes huge. before i can get pete restrained the cat literally scales the corner of the room with his claws, bouncing from wall to wall and nearly hitting the ceiling before dropping to the ground again.
by this point pete is almost peeing himself. what happened next though, is the stunning part. mr. darcy quickly came to pete's rescue. he got between pete and i and this new cat, making noises that i could never imagine coming from any living being. the pitch and volume of his growl were unearthly. clearly, i don't speak 'cat', but mr. darcy must have threatened that cat something fierce because as soon as i got that door open even a crack she was out like lightning.
they say the easiest way to bring people together is to give them a common enemy. i've never seen such a vivid reminder of that fact like i did tonight. leo and the orange cat joining forces to rid their home of the stranger grey cat. mr. darcy defending pete and quite possibly sparing him the loss of an eye to belligerent claws.
i will never forget the sound mr. darcy made. i swallowed the sound and heard it in my soul. it was the sound of power and it was the sound of fear. it was the sound of love and hate intertwined together.
i'm writing a book
title: for pete's sake
section one: life
section two: love
section three: faith
i'll be trying out some chapters on here (already have, actually).
be sure to let me know what you think!
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